Something about me {Personal Post, Business principle}

Honesty is more than just telling the truth.

Something a little personal for you today. Its about me, you, relationships, business and honesty. 

Some of you whom have had interactions with me know that they can be awkward at times and I can strait up tell you why. Its because of my belief in honesty. ALL of my choices in life are based on if I feel something, or someone is honest. I am all about how it feels. Does it feel honest? Does it feel real? Does it feel deceitful? Are intentions honest? Are there exaggerations present? Is there too much fluff?

These are my thoughts regularly. So much that it has ruined many relationships. I live for REAL people, REAL conversation, REAL work, REAL life, the good and the bad. 

I cant be all positive all of the time, because in real life, I am not. Sometimes I am rude (usually because I am honest) and it offends people. Although my intentions are never to hurt anyone, its simply because I HAVE to be honest, and I have not quite developed the skill of TACT. 

Tact is the knack of making a point without making an enemy.

 – Issac Newton

I am sure you're wondering why the random blog about me and honesty. Well, its because I feel the photography business world/creatives, need to improve their honesty and integrity in more than one way. I am in no way saying I am 100% honest ALL of the time, simply because I am a human, and there is always room for improvement. 

I will do my best to highlight ways that we as creative professionals can be more honest. I truly feel like this world, our clients, ourselves and our businesses could all benefit from a little more honesty.

(These definitions came from the following site: Frank Sonnenberg in an awesome article about honesty)

Misrepresentation.

Distorting facts to consciously mislead or create a false impression. Spinning the truth, presenting opinion as fact, and using revisionist thinking or euphemisms to masquerade the truth are all forms of misrepresentation. I.E. Claiming you created something all by yourself, or not giving credit to someone who helped you. Or saying someone is your BFF, when you really dont think that. Also, you cant have 15 BFF's. If you do, someone might need re-evaluate the definition of BEST Friend.

Omission.

Leaving out key information to intentionally deceive someone. As Benjamin Franklin said, “Half the truth is often a great lie.” I.E. Taking a photo that depicts your perfectly clean house, when really you only have one clean area of your house. And thats the only thing you chose to show in the photo.

Fabrication.

Deliberately inventing an untruth or spreading a falsehood such as gossip or a rumor. I.E. Telling someone the class is full, simply because you dont want them there.

Exaggeration.

Stretching the truth to give a more favorable impression. I.E. Captions like: "This was the most perfect beautiful wedding ever!" When it was beautiful, but no wedding is perfect. #Fluff

Denial.

Refusing to acknowledge the truth or to accept responsibility for a mistake or falsehood that was made. I.E. Client says, "The photos are not printing clearly, am I printing them wrong?" Own up to the fact the photo was out of focus for that shot, but dont blame it on the printing company.

Lack of transparency.

Withholding information knowing that full disclosure will have negative consequences. I.E Doing a collaboration, and not tagging those who participated, for fear of people following them, and not you.

Redirection.

Deflecting blame to another person to prevent personal embarrassment or responsibility. I.E. "The brides mom was so distracting that I couldn't get great photos." This is simply because you need to learn to work in distracting environments.

False recognition.

Stealing the credit for someone else’s hard-earned success. I.E. Taking credit for someone else's creative skills, connections, or intellectual knowledge.

Broken promise.

Making a promise with no intention of keeping it. I.E. "I will invite you next time we have a get together" "We should do a shoot together"... but never really intending to invite them.

Cover-up.

Protecting the misdeeds of others. Those who provide cover for the misdeeds of others are as guilty as those who perpetrate the “crime.” I.E: "I dont think they ever said or done anything like that!"... when its obvious they have.

Hypocrisy.

Saying one thing and consciously doing another. When words don’t match actions, someone is being dishonest with others or themselves. I.E. "I would never take advantage like that!" But then not refund someones money when you actually didn't deliver what the client originally paid for.

Bait and switch.

Attracting someone with an exciting offer only to divert them to an inferior deal.

Living a lie.

Pretending that you are something you’re not. I.E: Only talking about how successful you are, and never mentions their imperfections. OR I want to help you, but actually just wants to gain free knowledge from the person they want to "help out".

 

There are several different ways these can happen, and I have no doubt they have happened to several of you. I know they have happened to me in various ways, and I am just writing because I am tired of being in an industry that boasts kindness and joyful everything, but doesn't deliver.

Lets be real, not mean or nasty, just real. Real with our intentions, our friendships, our clients, ourselves, and have a little more integrity for pete's sake?!

If you want to join me on this cause, here is my facebook group called: Lets be real